My Mom is a Fob

So, when I went back to Taiwan to visit my Dad who lives there a few months ago, he started talking about arranging for me to meet some 留學生 (Taiwanese student planning on studying in the U.S.), of course he would "check it out" first, and my mind was HUH?

I'm an ABT, maybe somewhat on the conservative, traditional side (yeah I dated a FOB once), but this kind of arrangement was... a horrible spectacle! Sometimes maybe our parents want to arrange things to keep us "at home" like in Taiwan, within where our parents are living, etc. I realize that is not really practical, though, since I am A B T and will never be F O B, especially to arrange a marriage with someone who has never been through American high school.... is kind of stretching it.

So, although my Dad and I have kind of let go of that expectation, I still feel traditional values of family, faithfulness, etc. are in my blood, but "arranged" marriage has a context, too. In the U.S., as a Taiwanese American, I feel it's not time, yet, I look at lots of family and church couples, they got together when in late 20s, early 30s even, then they had a family. For me, mention of "arranged marriage with a Taiwanese guy" has made me even more averse to the subject.... Of course, I do think in the end that true, lasting, sincere relationships and perhaps marriage will be arranged somehow, maybe by fate....

oh snap. Lisgar. XD

For a second I had to think about my dentist's name..... which is not Eugene LOL.

wow, that is some impeccable spelling, grammar, vocab, syntax, and punctuation for an asian mom. my mom would've written something like, "yo need merry soon now. i talk eugene and we eat tomorow altogeter. ~~ hihi. ~~ mom."

Wow...this site is really reaching everywhere. if I'm not mistaken Leslie, you and I graduated from Lisgar in the same year. And Dean is my dentist (I opted not to go with Eugene since he was friends with my brother, and that would be short of awkward).

Wow... Eugene was in my homeroom...

Wow... Eugene was in my homeroom...

Is your mom some sort of English Major? Where's the Fobiness in this post?

So why is it that every time a mom tries to set her kids up, it's always "nothing wrong with making a friend!"

hey! never thought I would see Lisgar appear on mmiaf...

you went to lisgar??

OMG my parents did this to me as well. I mean honestly, if the dude is so cool and great why he gotta have his parents (and yours) to get a date with me? Honestly so out of the question.

Hey, if it’s more about families getting together and being open to possibilities, I don’t see why not. About being set up, though, even my dad balked when he was in Hong Kong, so I guess my parents are more chill.

Sounds like a page ripped out of my own story! My parents have done this countless times and unfortunately the guys were all the biggest dorks you could imagine. They were mostly virgins in their 30s and some even still lived at home---proudly I might add!
Sadly, I went out with a lot of these guys just to get my parents off my back. I just did it to make them happy. The experiences were a bit painful but gave me great stories to tell my friends.

"They were mostly virgins in their 30s and some even still lived at home---proudly"

Sounds like my parents' ideal son in law .__.

haha. at least she's not forcing it on you.

My aunt tried doing the same thing to me! "Nothing wrong with making a friend!"

Probably the most eloquent hookup email i've ever seen.

do those things ever pan out? my mom played matchmaker recently to a 27 year old and a 33 year old... epic fail.
i think both persons especially the guy.. were a little off.

but my mom sure was giddy about hooking them up.

i said yes to the date!

Stop it evil leslie

I wrote COMPLETELY OUT OF THE QUESTION!

and yes my mom is awesome!

Wow, this is so rational compared to other parents' (including my own) attempts to set up their children. Leslie, you have an awesome mom!

haha what did u say?!?!

I wonder what Leslie's response was...

OMG.. My mom did this to me... not once, but TWICE!