I'm an ABT, maybe somewhat on the conservative, traditional side (yeah I dated a FOB once), but this kind of arrangement was… a horrible spectacle! Sometimes maybe our parents want to arrange things to keep us “at home” like in Taiwan, within where our parents are living, etc. I realize that is not really practical, though, since I am A B T and will never be F O B, especially to arrange a marriage with someone who has never been through American high school…. is kind of stretching it.

So, although my Dad and I have kind of let go of that expectation, I still feel traditional values of family, faithfulness, etc. are in my blood, but “arranged” marriage has a context, too. In the U.S., as a Taiwanese American, I feel it's not time, yet, I look at lots of family and church couples, they got together when in late 20s, early 30s even, then they had a family. For me, mention of “arranged marriage with a Taiwanese guy” has made me even more averse to the subject…. Of course, I do think in the end that true, lasting, sincere relationships and perhaps marriage will be arranged somehow, maybe by fate….

I'm an ABT, maybe somewhat on the conservative, traditional side (yeah I dated a FOB once), but this kind of arrangement was… a horrible spectacle! Sometimes maybe our parents want to arrange things to keep us “at home” like in Taiwan, within where our parents are living, etc. I realize that is not really practical, though, since I am A B T and will never be F O B, especially to arrange a marriage with someone who has never been through American high school…. is kind of stretching it.

So, although my Dad and I have kind of let go of that expectation, I still feel traditional values of family, faithfulness, etc. are in my blood, but “arranged” marriage has a context, too. In the U.S., as a Taiwanese American, I feel it's not time, yet, I look at lots of family and church couples, they got together when in late 20s, early 30s even, then they had a family. For me, mention of “arranged marriage with a Taiwanese guy” has made me even more averse to the subject…. Of course, I do think in the end that true, lasting, sincere relationships and perhaps marriage will be arranged somehow, maybe by fate….

Sounds like my parents' ideal son in law .__.

For a second I had to think about my dentist's name….. which is not Eugene LOL.